Jul 9, 2020
This week we’re talking about overcoming COMPARISON! Seriously, have you ever opened up your social media app… you scrolled… scrolled… and then WHAM! It hits you… that wave of COMPARISON. Those feelings of: “I’m behind,” or “I’ve missed it” or “I’m too late” or “I’m not as ________ as them.” Here’s the deal. I think comparison kills more dreams and big ideas than just about anything else. And THAT is why we’re going after it this week. I’m going to get you a six-word phrase that’s helped set me and my coaching clients free from the “comparison trap!” (Plus, I’ll give you the fun story of when and how it hit me!) So… if you’re wanting to bust free from the weariness that comes from comparison… I’ve got your back! Let’s do this. Listen To The Podcast: RESOURCES: DREAM THINK DO Episode 213: “Identity Statements,” www.mitchmatthews.com/213 Mitch’s Success Coaching: www.mitchmatthews.com/success-coaching MINUTE BY MINUTE: 0:02 What to expect today 1:42 Comparison kills dreams 4:07 When Mitch experienced comparison 6:39 The phrase that ended comparison for Mitch 8:00 the benefits of staying in “learning mode” 9:51 Instead vs. Not 13:18 The foundation of the phrase 14:20 What to do when you are feeling intimidated 17:14 How to get coaching from Mitch MORE ABOUT THE EPISODE: Recently, I was working with one of my coaching clients. He’s an entrepreneur working on a new project. It has the potential to be big… really big. But part of it is going to involve him having more of a social media presence. This has caused him to look at what other people are doing which sparked a conversation about feeling those pangs of “comparison.” You know those feelings that can sometimes come when you see other people doing something or achieving something that you want to do or experience. Those feelings of: Do I have what it takes? Did I miss it? Am I too late? I could totally relate. I can totally relate. In fact, I had a similar experience when I was asked to be on stage at a big conference. I knew some of my heroes from the speaking world were going to be there too. People like Brendon Burchard, Jack Canfield, and Les Brown. Once I was there, I got to see them in action on stage. Plus, I was able to connect with them backstage too. I’ll admit those inner-voices of comparison started to weasel their way into my thinking. I started to have doubts. What if I wasn’t as good as they were? What if I couldn't deliver at the same level? What if my content didn’t resonate? But then I got hit with this phrase and it was so freeing. I think it was a gift from God because you know I was praying… BIG time! This phrase hit me and as I let it sink it... I got hit with a sense of calm… this sense of peace. This phrase helped me to move into a healthier state of mind. It helped me to start to feel confident. It helped me to move out of fear and be more open to the awesome things that were happening around me. It helped me to stay out of comparison and instead… it enabled me to take in the gold the speakers were sharing… as well as take in the full experience and learn from the whole situation. I can tell you this phrase has helped me so much since too. Any time when I’m moving into comparison mode. You know those times when you’re: - scrolling through social media - or reading a book or a memoir by someone who’s done something YOU want to do - hearing a story of a breakthrough from a friend or a client If I feel that comparison starts to creep in… I remind myself of the phrase and it makes all the difference. Are you ready for it? Here’s the phrase. “Learn from instead of comparing to.” Such a simple phrase but it makes a huge difference. There are three elements to this phrase. Let’s break it down. LEARNING FROM: