With a podcast called “DREAM THINK DO,” it’s not a surprise that we talk a lot about the keys to ACCOMPLISHING our goals and dreams. But recently, I realized that we don’t talk a lot about what happens when we actually ACHIEVE some of those goals and dreams. And let’s be real #realtalk. We need to celebrate those blessings and be grateful when a goal is achieved and a dream is realized. AND at the same time... we need to recognize that there can be some challenges that come when we actually receive some of the blessings! We can experience some discomfort… heck... even some problems… when some of our dreams are realized. The very things we'd wanted... the very things we'd prayed for... can… at times... cause some "stuff." You know what I’m talking about. Those blessings can also sometimes bring some new challenges to navigate. It’s something we’re calling the B.S. of your blessings. It’s critical… and we need to talk about how to acknowledge the BS and then what to do with it! Oh… and we need to have some fun as we do all of this too! Let’s get to it!
RESOURCES & PODCASTS REFERENCED:
The NEXT SEASON: https://mitchmatthews.com/331
From FREE to FEE: Becoming a PAID Speaker: https://mitchmatthews.com/332
A Hiro’s Journey: What I’ve learned from our Akita puppy so far: https://mitchmatthews.com/322/
MORE ABOUT THIS EPISODE:
Okay… if full transparency… when I say "BS" I may not be talking about the "BS" that might come to mind. LOL! But… I did that to have some fun... and to make this concept even easier to remember.
The BS I'm talking about is something I've started calling: "Blessing Shift."
What is BLESSING SHIFT?
Blessing Shift is what happens when we experience some discomfort… some change… some pain… after we’ve achieved a goal or a dream. We all have to acknowledge that sometimes… some “tough stuff” can come with the “good stuff.” Right?
The big thing is we need to ACKNOWLEDGE it and then decide what to DO with that BS.
I give some examples in the episode… of some recent BS that I’ve experienced (with one story involving Hiro) as well as BS some friends and other Dream Think Doers have been experiencing lately. Then… we’ll dive into the steps to deal with the BS.
STEPS to DEAL with the BS:
QUESTIONS for each STEP:
STEP 1: Acknowledge the BS
NOW… I want to hear from YOU!
Comment and let me know where you're seeing a "Blessing Shift" right now in your life. Big or small… what’s an example of some BS for you right now?
Then… let’s keep this convo going. If you’re up for it... let me know how you are either ACCEPTING it... ADAPTING to it... or ALTERING it. I can’t wait to hear from YOU on whether this resonated WITH you… helped you or offended your delicate sensibilities. (LOL!)
Let’s have a BS CHALLENGE!
As we’re ramping up for the big THANK YOU DAY of Thanksgiving here in the US… I thought it might be a good time to explore the potential BS in our lives. I mean… what if we got people talking about what they’re grateful for AND we got them talking about how they’re either ACCEPTING, ADAPTING to or ALTERING any BS they’ve been experiencing this year. Heck… it could be gooooood. Right?
So… invite a friend or some family to this episode and have a little discussion about the BLESSINGS from this year as well as some of the BS that may have hit too! Then talk about some of the ways you want to Acknowledge... Accept... Adapt and/or Alter those amazing freeeegin' blessings in your life!
Tag me... and/or share the link for the episode and include a hashtag #blessshift and let's see where this goes! You in? I hope so! #letsdealwithourBS :)
RESOURCES:
Amanda’s website: www.amandamotivates.com
Amanda’s author page on Amazon.
Amanda’s book on Amazon.
Francesca Battistelli’s “It’s Your Life” song: click here
Amanda and Todd’s Miracle Journey: https://mitchmatthews.com/338
MITCH’S MINUTE:
So a number of things struck me from our conversation, but one of the biggest may have also been one of the simplest. (Isn’t that how it often works?) I mean… hey… I LOVE the story of Todd’s miraculous healing story and where it’s taken them since. Plus, I love that Amanda has broken through some of her own paralysis in life to step out in faith… launch her own business… and write a book too! So cool. BUT one of the key things I needed to be reminded of is that we need to have a breakthrough mindset. We need to set our mind towards breaking through. Sure… we need to acknowledge it’s going to be tough… and maybe even scary at times… BUT if we set our minds towards breakthrough… there’s a MUCH greater chance we will in fact experience that breakthrough! And THAT is the epitome of dreaming BIGGER, thinking BETTER and doing MORE of what you were put on the planet to do! Right? So that’s what I needed to hear. How about you? Comment below and let me know. What struck you… and what stuck with you? A story? A strategy? A thought? Post and let me know!
We’re talking with Lindsay Wrege. Lindsay is the co-founder and CEO of 321 Coffee… which is a coffee shop and roaster in Raleigh, NC that employs individuals with intellectual and developmental disabilities. Get this gang… 80% of adults with intellectual and developmental disabilities (IDD) are unemployed. But Lindsay is doing something about this! Her staff, features amazing people with down syndrome, autism, and other neurodiversity. Together… they are modeling inclusion for other companies to follow. And THAT is inspiring. But what is ALSO inspiring is to find out that Lindsay started this as a freshman in college with ZERO dollars, some folding tables from the student union and a few friends and it’s blossomed into something amazing! (Oh… and by the way… Lindsay is just 22 years old!) Whether your 15, 35 or 75… I think you’ll be encouraged by her story, her heart and some of her specific steps to making this all happen! So, let’s get to it!
RESOURCES:
WEBSITE: https://321coffee.com/
321 Coffee’s Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/Drink321Coffee/
321 Coffee’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/Drink321Coffee/
An Episode of Matthew’s Minute: https://mitchmatthews.com/337
OTHER DREAM THINK DO MENTIONED:
Finding the Bright Side (In a Bad News World) with Jess Ekstrom: https://mitchmatthews.com/242/
5 Keys to Journaling When Life Feels a Little Crazy with Jess Ekstrom:
The NEXT Season - A Deep Dive with Mitch: https://mitchmatthews.com/331/
MORE ABOUT THE 321 Coffee:
Again… Lindsay Wrege is the co-founder and CEO of 321 Coffee, a coffee shop and roaster in Raleigh, NC that employs individuals with intellectual and developmental disabilities. 321 Coffee is a nonprofit coffee shop that employs adults with IDD. Their mission is to provide meaningful employment for adults with IDD and to model inclusion for other businesses to follow.
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MITCH’S MINUTE… & LET’S HEAR FROM YOU!
I’m blown away by Lindsay’s story and her get it done approach to this. When she said, “Dream BIG but start small” I just wanted to give her a big ol’ high five! (You could probably hear it in my voice!) I think that is THE way to start pursuing our dreams and goals. Find those small but significant ways to START and then… well… START! Experiment and figure it out as you go!!!
How about YOU?
What do you think? What was something that stood out to you from Lindsay’s story and her outlook? What did it inspire YOU to… dream about… think about… or DO?!? Leave a comment and let me know!
And PLEASE share this one because the world needs to hear stories like Lindsay’s! You agree? If so… spread it!!! Thanks in advance!
Our self-talk is key. The questions we ask ourselves… minute by minute… are critical.
How we make decisions (BIG and small) have a huge impact on our lives. In short… if we do it right… we WIN more. If we do it wrong… we lose more. I don’t know about you… but I want you to WIN more. I bet you're right there with me! So… today… I’m going to walk you through a decision making process that can take you 5 minutes or less… but can make all the difference. It’s a series of some of my favorite coaching questions put into a powerful sequence. These are questions I love to ask my coaching clients AND when they start to use them… they see results! And… OF COURSE… we have an acronym to help us remember. S.P.E.E.D. That’s it. Better decisions… faster. Winning more. You in? I hope so. Let’s get to this!
RESOURCES:
PAST EPISODES WE MENTION:
Rock Thomas: “60,000 thoughts a day!” https://mitchmatthews.com/rock-thomas/
Melissa Johnson-Matthews: “Being Bi-Lingual in the 5 Love Languages” https://mitchmatthews.com/being-bilingual/
TWENTY Really Good Questions: https://mitchmatthews.com/245/
The THREE Questions that Change Everything: https://mitchmatthews.com/7-the-3-questions-that-change-everything/
MORE ON THE EPISODE:
Researchers debate a little on this… but people who dive deep on this say that we have somewhere between 50,000 and 100,000 thoughts a day.
We’re aware of some… not aware of others… BUT as you can imagine… our self-talk is CRITICAL! So… we have to get intentional about this!
As a “recovering-worrier” I know alllllll about this! If we’re not careful: We can lose the day… even before it starts. We need a better way to be INTENTIONAL about our thought life. So we can WIN the day more. That is what we’re digging into today.
S.P.E.E.D.
It’s a simple acronym that helps us be INTENTIONAL about our inner-thought life… and the decisions we’re making on a day to day basis.
Made up of some of my favorite coaching questions… put into a specific order.
Here are the elements:
S: Success
What does success look like?
Examples:
P: People
Who’s involved?
Question for THEM (TEAMS/OTHERS):
Questions for YOU when it comes to OTHERS::
E: Experiment
How do I/we want to experiment to achieve this?
________
ex·per·i·ment
noun
noun: experiment; plural noun: experiments
/ikˈsperəmənt/
________
EXPERIMENT COACHING QUESTIONS:
A QUICK SHOUT OUT TO DREAM THINK DOers who are contributing reviews, sharing and commenting!!!
Click here to see if you were featured: https://mitchmatthews.com/336
E: Evaluate
How do I/we want to evaluate this?
EVALUATE COACHING QUESTIONS:
D: Determined
How do I want to remind myself I’m committed?
Example from Mel and my world!
Review the elements again.
Point them to Parkinson’s Law!
PARKINSON’S LAW:
This process could take 5 hours… and in the beginning… it will take longer. BUT remember “Parkinson’s Law:”
“A task expands to fill the time it’s given.”
So… you can do a version of this in 5 minutes… as you start your day… and end your day… as you get ready for a meeting… and as you create a vision for you life.
Taking the elements of the S.P.E.E.D. approach can make all the difference!
MITCH’S MINUTE:
When I teach on this… people will sometimes ask… “Where does prayer fit into this?” The added BONUS of the S.P.E.E.D. approach can also be a prayer. How cool is THAT? For those of you who LOVE prayer and for those of you who are curious about prayer… and/or anyone in between… have at it and see where it takes you!
That’s one way I’ve adapted S.P.E.E.D. So… how about you? How do YOU want to apply it? Where are you already using questions like these? What’s working for you? What’s something small but significant you’re going to try as the result of listening in? Leave a comment below and let me know. I can’t wait to hear from YOU!
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