348: 4 Ways to Design a Dream Date!

Valentine’s day is right around the corner… so today’s subject is CRITICAL!  And hey… it’s always good to find ways to inject some extra romance into a date.  The good news is… it’s a lot easier than you might think!  And whether it’s early in your relationship… or you’ve been together for a while (my bride and I have been married for 29 years!!!)... you can use these strategies to bust out of the norm, and take a ho-hum date to “dream date” status!  We’re going to get you real-world strategies that won’t break the bank and won’t involve a two-week trip to Fiji!  You’ll be able to apply these concepts and have more romance, connection, AND fun!  So let’s get to this!

RELATED DREAM THINK DO EPISODES:

Melissa and I talked about the 5 Love Languages in www.mitchmatthews.com/214 

3 Keys to Breaking Free from the Past with Travis Crutcher: www.mitchmatthews.com/344 

"Surprised By Prayer" - Another interview with my bride Melissa: www.mitchmatthews.com/207

 

RESOURCES:

5 Love Languages:

You can find out more at: Discover Your Love Language - The 5 Love Languages®: (www.5lovelanguages.com)

The FIVE Love Languages are:

• Quality Time
• Words of affirmation
• Physical Touch
• Acts of Service
• Receiving Gifts

      Grab Mitch’s game: “Q Dates” at www.mitchmatthews.com/store

 

STEPS:

1. Know YOUR Primary Love Languages
2. Know your SIGNIFICANT OTHER'S Primary Love Languages
3. Plan THIS date... around your SIGNIFICANT OTHER’S LOVE LANGUAGES

 

BONUS TIP 1: Create a Mixtape!

Playlist - Mixtape!!!

Put a playlist together of songs that mean something to you as a couple!

Use Apple... Spotify… or put a literal mixtape together!

Examples from “Our History” Playlist:

• “Wonderful Tonight” by Eric Clapton
• “In Your Eyes” by Peter Gabriel
• “I will always love you” by Whitney Houston
• “Crazy Love” by Van Morrison
• “I can't help falling in love with you” by UB40
• “My One and Only” by John Coltrane and Johnny Hartman

Other romantic examples (you’re welcome):

• “At Last” by Etta James
• “I want you back” by Colbie Caillat
• “I'd love you all over again” by Alan Jackson
• “I won't give up” Jason Mraz

 

BONUS TIP 2: Ask and then REALLY LISTEN!!!

Grab Mitch’s game: “Q Dates” at www.mitchmatthews.com/store 

 

Conversation Starter Questions:

Complete the following sentences:

• My favorite class in high school was _________? (Why?)
• A perfect Saturday morning is when I get to ______________________.
• One of my favorite things about my week is when I ________________.
• One of my favorite TV shows from my childhood was ______________. (Why?)
• My favorite season of the year is ____________. (Why?)

Other questions:

• If you could meet any celebrity, who would you want to meet and why?
• If you could have a personal assistant do one thing for you, what would you have them do?
• If you could instantly learn how to play an instrument, which instrument would you want to be able to play?  Where would you want to perform?
• If you could take a trip anywhere in the world (cost is not an issue), where would you want to go and why?

 

BONUS TIP 3: Be a Tourist:

My friend and coaching client, Lisa Even (www.EvenConnection.com) suggests giving yourself permission to be a “Tourist” in your own town.  Try things you haven't tried.  Go somewhere you haven't gone.  Be willing to risk looking like a “tourist” to see something for the first time.  And/or to see something you’ve seen a hundred times… through new eyes!

 

BIG SHOUT OUT TO SOME NEW REVIEWERS ON APPLE:

Thanks to Aree and Mandy who left reviews on Apple Podcasts!  We couldn’t do this without you guys!  If you haven’t already, please leave a review wherever you listen to the podcast.  You can get to the show on Apple here: www.dreamthinkdo.com.

 

MINUTE BY MINUTE:

• 0:02 A new topic for Dream Think Do
• 2:58 Let’s start planning your next dream date
• 7:50 Focus on romance even if you’re busy
• 13:24 One resource every couple needs 
• 19:10 Date night example from Mitch and Mel
• 26:32 Having fun with acts of service 
• 28:21 Mitch’s romance playlist
• 34:30 Shout-outs! Did you hear your name?
• 37:53 Ways to love your significant others
• 43:11 Little things can make every day better
• 46:00 What’s coming up next on Dream Think Do

 

I WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU!

Leave a comment and let me know what stood out to you from this episode.  More importantly, let us know a favorite way to take a date to the next level?  BIG or small… what’s some of YOUR special sauce?  I can’t wait to hear from you!

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