We’re answering a great question from a fellow DREAM THINK DO listener this week. He asked, “As a Success Coach… what’s one of the most important questions you ask people?” Whew. I love that and… as you’ll hear… I get pretty fired up to answer it.
In fact, the question that we dig into is one that you can use to get more clear, build your confidence and help you to stay inspired. But it’s also a question you can use at work with your teams, your co-workers and… heck, even with leaders above you. Plus, you can use it with your family and friends too.
I don’t want to sound like I’m trying to over-hype this question… but seriously… it’s THAT powerful! And it’s sooooooo important to ask (in multiple scenarios)! So get excited. Let’s dive in!
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Lots of questions come in... especially after episode 346 - RESET WEEK - where I said we'd be spending MOST of our upcoming episodes on:
By the way… if you’d like to ask a question and/or give me a suggestion for topics for future DREAM THINK DO episodes, be sure to leave a comment!
One recent question really applies to BOTH the “Abundant Life Playbook” and the “Elite Coach Playbook,” is: "As a coach... what's one of the most important questions you ask?"
THIS IS A GREAT QUESTION! And I couldn’t help myself but dive into it! And as you can imagine… since I’ve been a full-time coach for almost 20 years… I have a lot of favorite questions. BUT one of my favorites and one of the most important has to be:
“What does success look like”
This is a powerful question if you're a coach or a mentor. This is a powerful question if you're a leader or a manager. This is a powerful question if you're a parent or a friend. It even is important to ask in a romantic relationship. So yeah… as you can see… it’s a favorite!
It’s a great question to ask others… but it’s also a great question to ask yourself as you’re journaling, meditating, and praying.
I love this question because it's MACRO and it's MICRO:
Are you sold? I hope so. So let’s dive in!
MACRO-LEVEL EXAMPLES:
Let’s talk about some examples of “MACRO” versions of this question.
WHAT DOES SUCCESS LOOK LIKE FOR:
You can use this question as you consider the different ROLES you have in life:
WHAT DOES SUCCESS LOOK LIKE FOR:
It can also be a question to ask yourself… when it comes to the way you want to live life:
What does success look like for how I want to LIVE?
Now… let’s talk about the question at a MICRO LEVEL:
As in… how can you apply it TODAY? How can you use it to help guide you a moment to moment… today?
I like to add the “Rule of 3” here to drill down to some specifics. So I simply add “three things” to the question.
For example:
What are 3 things that would make today a success?
If I journal that… I might come up with things like:
Then… I’d pick the 3 most important for that day.
Or another example is if you’re prepping for a hard conversation, you might ask:
What are 3 things that are within my control that would make this conversation a success?
You might come up with things like:
Another example is I recently hired a new VA. So… I asked myself, "What are 3 things that would make my new team member’s onboarding a success?"
Some things I came up with were:
THIS makes for a great prayer too. Some of my favorite questions as I pray are:
Lord... what do you want me to know... today?
Lord.. what do you want me to do… today?
Lord… what does success look like... today?
NOTE: The topic of favorite questions I ask during prayer could TOTALLY be its own episode. So, if you dig that or you’d want me to dig into that more... leave a comment or send me an email and let me know!
TIME TO TAKE ACTION:
Where do you want to apply this question... this week?
Go big... and ask a MACRO QUESTION or two.
Then be sure to go MICRO too… and experiment with the “Rule of 3” to bring it to something specific... today.
Minute by Minute:
I want to hear from YOU!
What’s something that stood out to you? More importantly… what are you going to try as a result?
Let me know! And hey… if you have more questions… let me know! I can’t wait to hear from YOU!
Lastly, don’t forget to share this episode! Your friends will thank you!
And when you do either tag me or just include the #dreamthinkdo.
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Keep bringing your awesome,
Mitch
Have you ever thought about launching your own podcast? You’ve got a topic you’re passionate about or a group of people you really feel called to help… and you’ve wondered, “Should I start a podcast?” Well… if that’s you (or you just curious about some of the behind-the-scenes on the podcast industry) THIS episode is for you! By the way… should everyone start a podcast? The answer is NO! An emphatic no! BUT more people should start a podcast than you might think! We’ll talk about WHO should think about launching a podcast and we’ll talk about HOW to get one started (it’s easier than you might think). Plus, we’ll help you to beat out 85% of all podcasts almost immediately! Oh, and since this is episode 350… we’ll also reminisce a bit. We’ll dig into some of my favorites and some fun behind-the-scenes stories that have gotten us here! So let’s get to this!
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Some Surprising Stats on Starting a Podcast:
At this time, there are still less than 3 million podcasts worldwide, BUT there are over 37 million YouTube channels, and over 1 billion blogs. (Yeah… that’s BILLION… with a “b.”)
According to Edison Research... about 65 to 75% of Americans have heard a podcast.
Get this… ONLY 15% of new podcasts make it to 11 episodes. And only 15% of those podcasts will make it to 100 episodes! BUT... the longer you stay in... the better the chance you have of finding your audience and thriving!
5 Tips for Starting A Podcast:
Minute by Minute:
I want to hear from YOU!
What’s something that stood out to you? More importantly… are you more excited about launching a podcast… OR… did this episode help you learn that podcasting isn’t for you? Let me know! And hey… if you have more questions… let me know! I can’t wait to hear from YOU!
Lastly, don’t forget to share this episode! And when you do either tag me or just include the #dreamthinkdo.
You can find me on Facebook, LinkedIn and Instagram. Let’s connect there too!
Today we’re talking about what it takes to build a confident mind… no matter what. Our tour guide for this discussion is Dr. Nate Zinsser… who’s the Director of the Performance Psychology Program at the United States Military Academy at West Point. He uses applied performance psychology to help cadets prepare for and perform in high-stakes situations. But he also helps world-class athletes, Olympic medalists, professional ballerinas, NHL All-Stars, college All-Americans… as well as countless business professionals and leaders! In fact, NFL MVP Eli Manning said, “Studying confidence with Dr. Zinsser helped me win two Super Bowls!”
He teaches people how to overcome pressure and succeed. By the way… Doc Z has applied these concepts himself… to allow him to deliver consistently… but to also become a world-class mountaineer and accomplished martial artist.. just to name a few. His brand new book is called, “ THE CONFIDENT MIND: A Battle-Tested Guide to Unshakable Performance.” It’s a book designed to help us all better understand confidence… build it… protect it… and rely upon it when performance matters most! It’s a powerful conversation I think you’re going to love so let’s get to it!
RESOURCES:
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EPISODE MINUTE BY MINUTE:
I WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU!
Leave a comment and let me know what stood out to you from this interview with Dr. Z.
More importantly, let me know which strategy, story, or pearl of wisdom (BIG or small)… inspired you to take action. What’s something (Big or small) you’re going to experiment with as a result?
I can’t wait to hear from you!
Valentine’s day is right around the corner… so today’s subject is CRITICAL! And hey… it’s always good to find ways to inject some extra romance into a date. The good news is… it’s a lot easier than you might think! And whether it’s early in your relationship… or you’ve been together for a while (my bride and I have been married for 29 years!!!)... you can use these strategies to bust out of the norm, and take a ho-hum date to “dream date” status! We’re going to get you real-world strategies that won’t break the bank and won’t involve a two-week trip to Fiji! You’ll be able to apply these concepts and have more romance, connection, AND fun! So let’s get to this!
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RESOURCES:
5 Love Languages:
You can find out more at: Discover Your Love Language - The 5 Love Languages®: (www.5lovelanguages.com)
The FIVE Love Languages are:
Grab Mitch’s game: “Q Dates” at www.mitchmatthews.com/store
STEPS:
BONUS TIP 1: Create a Mixtape!
Playlist - Mixtape!!!
Put a playlist together of songs that mean something to you as a couple!
Use Apple... Spotify… or put a literal mixtape together!
Examples from “Our History” Playlist:
Other romantic examples (you’re welcome):
BONUS TIP 2: Ask and then REALLY LISTEN!!!
Grab Mitch’s game: “Q Dates” at www.mitchmatthews.com/store
Conversation Starter Questions:
Complete the following sentences:
Other questions:
BONUS TIP 3: Be a Tourist:
My friend and coaching client, Lisa Even (www.EvenConnection.com) suggests giving yourself permission to be a “Tourist” in your own town. Try things you haven't tried. Go somewhere you haven't gone. Be willing to risk looking like a “tourist” to see something for the first time. And/or to see something you’ve seen a hundred times… through new eyes!
BIG SHOUT OUT TO SOME NEW REVIEWERS ON APPLE:
Thanks to Aree and Mandy who left reviews on Apple Podcasts! We couldn’t do this without you guys! If you haven’t already, please leave a review wherever you listen to the podcast. You can get to the show on Apple here: www.dreamthinkdo.com.
I WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU!
Leave a comment and let me know what stood out to you from this episode. More importantly, let us know a favorite way to take a date to the next level? BIG or small… what’s some of YOUR special sauce? I can’t wait to hear from you!
Lastly, don’t forget to share this episode! And when you do either tag me or just include the #dreamthinkdo and we’ll send 5 lucky sharers a copy of “Q Dates!”
You can find me on Facebook, LinkedIn, and Instagram. Let’s connect!